Spoiler alert: the moment you stop chasing is the moment everything shifts.
Alright girlfriend, let’s talk about something every strong, high-value woman has experienced at least once: the “Why am I doing all the work here?” moment.
You’ve flirted. You’ve leaned in. You’ve sent the first text (and the second… and the fifth). Maybe you even asked him out, because hey—it’s 2025 and we don’t wait forever, right?
But now? You’re stuck in dating limbo.
Still waiting.
Still wondering.
Still hoping he’ll finally do something.
And instead of him sweeping you off your feet, it feels like he’s slowly backing away while you’re standing there with a full heart and no reply.
So your bestie gives you some tough love:
“Girl. Stop chasing him. Let him miss you.”
And she’s not wrong—but there’s a little more nuance to it. Here’s what really happens when you stop chasing, texting first, or doing all the heavy lifting.
When the “good morning” texts disappear and your name no longer lights up his phone, trust me—he notices. Maybe not instantly, but eventually. He’s used to your energy, your attention, and your sweet little check-ins. And suddenly, it’s crickets.
He’s thinking: “Wait… what happened? Did I do something? Is she talking to someone else?”
That mystery? It’s powerful. You’ve just become ten times more interesting without saying a word.
If you two shared genuine chemistry—deep convos, laughs that made your face hurt, or those little moments that made his day—you better believe he’s remembering them now.
He’s not just missing your attention. He’s missing how you made him feel.
But if you were the one carrying the whole thing, and he doesn’t miss the connection? Then that tells you what you need to know, queen.
Here’s the truth: Men love the chase. Not because it’s a game, but because pursuit makes them feel masculine, confident, and invested. When you stop doing all the work, he finally gets the opportunity to show up.
And a good man? He will. He’ll get creative. He’ll be consistent. He’ll show you that he’s serious.
(And if he doesn’t? That’s also your answer—bye, sir.)
Not chasing doesn’t mean you suddenly turn into a cold, unbothered robot. It means you stay open, warm, and flirty—but without chasing validation. You let your smile and vibe do the talking. You stay magnetic, but unattached.
You’re not trying to convince anyone of your worth. You already know you’re the prize.
He’ll either see that—or step aside for someone who does.
Stop selling yourself to someone who doesn’t recognize your value. Let him wonder. Let him work. Let him earn it.
And if you’re done playing guessing games and want to meet someone who actually shows up for you?
That’s where I come in.
At Kat Matchmaking, I work with high-value singles in the Sacramento area who are done wasting time and ready for something real. No more chasing. No more confusion. Just quality introductions, real compatibility, and the relationship you’ve been dreaming of.
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You’re not asking for too much.
You’re just finally asking the right way.
With love,
Kat 💖
P.S. Remember… there is nobody busier than a man who just isn’t that into you. Let’s only focus on the ones who are.